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Research
If you are interested in research-backed findings around adoptive parenting, then you're in the right place! Read on.
In 2019 I began a research project that asked the question “Levels of well-being in adults adopted as children – what can we learn?”
The research concluded in December 2020, and whilst none of it was particularly surprising, I was able to distil the research down to 6 key points for adoptive parents to consider in order to support the attainment of wellbeing in their adopted child through effective adoption parenting.
Psychotherapy
If you are feeling stuck, misunderstood or generally low or anxious, or if you seek support in improving the relationships in your life then psychotherapy could be for you.
It offers a safe space to explore your feelings and confusion, a space where you can express all you feel. Read what others have to say in my testimonials section.
There are many modes of therapy, and I combine several 'strands' of understanding the human condition in my work. However, at the core of how I understand humans is the existential approach. Existentialism is based on philosophical belief and is rooted in the idea that many humans struggle until they can find a sense of meaning for whatever "chapter" of their life they are navigating.
You can read a little more here.
Wellbeing
Living with wellbeing is a universal need and desire. It is at the very core of all my work.
I see every day how wellbeing routines improve and enhance the lives of people, and I can personally vouch for that. I see how incorporating this into our lives leads to a life with resilience, strength and productivity.
My research looked at wellbeing in adoptees, and my client work shows me how a good wellbeing routine when coupled with a sense of meaning in our lives, changes the roadmap.
I talk much more about wellbeing here.
Background
Welcome to the website and thank you for taking the time to read.
Since 2011 I have been immersed in the world of psychology, counselling, self development, wellbeing and psychotherapy. I have been supporting people with their wellbeing and mental health in private practice for many years, supporting a wide range of issues, including issues of identity, anxiety, low mood, loss and relationships. In 2019 I embarked on a research study looking at wellbeing in adult adoptees.
My parents adopted me at 9 days old in 1970, in England. Back then there was very little education around for adopting parents. They didn't know much about the separation trauma, they didn't give thought to the loss I had endured as a baby having been separated from my mother.
Like many would-be parents unable (or so they thought at the time) to conceive, they thought adopting a baby would be the answer. The answer for themselves and for me - a baby who needed a home. They were ill-prepared for the difficulties ahead, through the different phases of my development, for my internalising behaviours and later complicated attempts at understanding my identity.
It was a bumpy ride, one fraught with pain for us all, and frequent bouts of low mood and anxiety on my part.
But my experiences led me to self-help, to therapy, to psychology to psychotherapy and ultimately to adoption research.
I wanted to understand how the adult adopted community fare in terms of their wellbeing, when compared with the general population. And what I found was no surprise to me. I found that adoptees are over-represented in therapy, misunderstood and frequently lonely with their feelings. They feel guilt and a sense of betrayal towards the adoptive family for feelings that are entirely natural, and yet this side of the story is rarely discussed openly.
My purpose is to bring this to the awareness of all those involved in adoptive parenting now and into the future. So that all adoptive parents and prospective adopters can do their bit towards supporting adoptees in their quest for living with wellbeing. You can read more about the research here, and see my YouTube videos on this topic here