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The Importance of Identity

By Lara | February 1, 2020

Identity affects us all – especially when we don’t know our roots. I get the sense that few people think about their identity explicitly. Instead, it operates silently in their lives. Silently but continuously. So I think it crucial that we understand the importance of identity. What is identity then? We are so multi-faceted as human…

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What we seek in life

By Lara | January 19, 2020

What do we seek in life? Some seek peace.  Some seek happiness.  Do those that seek happiness through material gain or consumption have inner peace?  Of course, some do and others don’t.  Arguably though, true happiness is nigh on impossible to achieve unless there is a degree of inner peace.  It’s not the stuff we collect that brings us happiness,…

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Anxiety ii

By Lara | January 8, 2020

Managing Anxiety – Part 2 Anxious thoughts Some people experience anxious thoughts – this is very common.  I think we all do to some extent, but for some people these thoughts keep them so fearful that they’re not really living their lives.  As with most things to do with mental health, we should face these things, not…

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Anxiety (i)

By Lara | January 5, 2020

This is the first in a two-part post on anxiety.  In this first part I explain the role of anxiety, and what happens. Our language Firstly, I believe that the word anxiety (rather like the terms ‘depression’, ‘OCD’, ‘abuse’ and ‘bullying’) should be used in their proper context and not as part of the throwaway language…

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Vulnerability

By Lara | December 29, 2019

Why do we need to embrace vulnerability? Vulnerability, like most things is on a continuum.  At one end, there are those of us that completely shy away from being vulnerable, and at the other end, those that are naively too vulnerable.  This most often plays out in our personal relationships with partners, family and friends but can…

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What is mindfulness again?

By Lara | December 22, 2019

What is mindfulness? Mindfulness is talked about a lot at these days.  They are using it in schools with pupils to help them focus, and it’s often associated with meditation.  But many of us don’t know what it is, and those that do may have seen books and courses on how to be mindful and feel put…

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How We Deal with Conflict

By Lara | December 11, 2019

Conflict doesn’t need to be part of communication There are ‘models of conflict’ that go some way to describing the stages we go through when in conflict with another individual or group.  In essence they describe how humans deal with conflict. These models or theories are sometimes used as a basis for mediation, enabling the mediators…

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CBT – Cognitive Behavioural Therapy

By Lara | December 4, 2019

What is CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is an approach to working with human problems.  It emerged in the late seventies and is a blended approach. Two main schools of thought had prevailed. These were 1) the behaviourist approach and 2) cognitive theories. The behaviourists focussed on reinforcement versus punishment, conditioned and learned…

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Moving on

By Lara | November 28, 2019

It can be hard, moving on. Accepting the new normal can be difficult to do, especially when it isn’t something we wanted.  Take moving on from a relationship.  In a scenario when our partner left us, we may resist moving on at all. Emotional freedom only comes about when we accept our reality.  Because only then can we…

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Why care what they think?

By Lara | November 21, 2019

Evolution may have something to say about why we care what they think. What is it about us human beings that means that we care so damned much about others’ opinions? This interests me on a professional level and because I love the story of evolution, we should probably view it as a survival strategy.  If…

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